Two Friends Walking in the Desert

Make Friends as an Adult

If you want a good life, you should put friendship on the menu.  This friendship recipe will empower you to make new friends as an adult.

Course Main Course
Prep Time 30 minutes
Cook Time 15 minutes
Total Time 45 minutes
Servings 2


  • 1 tbsp Smiles
  • 2 cups Courage
  • 1 set Pen & Paper
  • 1 copy Win Friends & Influence People
  • 1 copy Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People


  1. Write down all the positive attributes that you bring to the friendship table. Also write down what you need in a friend. This could take up to or exceed 30 minutes.

  2. Read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends & Influence People" and/or Vanessa Van Edwards "Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People." Remember to write your key insights down. This step varies depending on your reading speed.

  3. Set aside time to cultivate friendship. This might be:
    - 15 minutes per week to phone a friend
    - actively showing yourself friendly twice a day
    - volunteering 4 hours a month to an organization where you can do good (and meet cool people)